Oratory Objective!

Some people are highly critical of others. When individuals become known for this characteristic in communication, often what they say is tuned out even when it might have been BENEFICIAL.

Criticism is generally defined as an opinion or judgment of what is wrong with someone or something and is often expressed in terms of disapproval of perceived faults. However it is also used of the judgment or discussion of the qualities of something such as a creative work. “Constructive criticism” is frequently what people think they are offering as a good thing when they are actually doing what those two words convey; building up and then tearing down. What should be the goal of criticism if it is going to be offered?

Someone has stated, “The goal of criticism is to leave the person with the feeling that he or she has been helped.” [source: bulletin clipping]

Would we not agree that this is a worthy objective? It is possible to be critical of others with no desire to help them at all. However, when we do want to bring BENEFIT to their life, we need to be mindful of the manner in which we approach them. In Paul’s letter to the church at Ephesus, in just the space of one sentence he provided a simple rule of thumb that can make a critical difference in our communication with others.

We read…
“Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is GOOD FOR BUILDING UP, as FIT’S THE OCCASION, that it may GIVE GRACE TO THOSE WHO HEAR.” ( Ephesians 4:29 ESV)

Three principles to keep in mind: BUILDING UP, wisely considering the APPROPRIATENESS FOR THE OCCASION, and bringing GRACIOUS BENEFIT to the one with whom we are speaking. This is the kind of speech that is most likely to allow our listeners to walk away knowing we genuinely care and feeling they have been truly helped. May we become known for such a characteristic in our communication with others.

Have a great day SET FOR HELPING OUR HEARERS!
Carl

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